My dear 16-year-old Bola,
I have not come to tell you what lies in the future. I have come to help you see that in the present, you are worthy. You don’t have to do anything, or become anything to be worthy. You are intrinsically, inherently worthy, just as you are.
Your confusing experience with your parents and with your extended family has left you feeling as though your very existence is wrong and unwanted. I am so proud of you for somehow continuing to know that you deserve to be you. Thank goodness for all those cousins and family friends. It feels damaging to have to rely so heavily on them but at least they are there.
That day in boarding school when you decided you didn’t have to be the product of various unhappy features of your childhood, and that you could simply be yourself … just brilliant. Maybe I will tell you one thing about the future after all – there’s more love ahead.
WEGO PROMPT FOR THIS POST: Write a letter to yourself at age 16. What would you tell yourself? What would you make your younger self aware of?