Bring Your Own Dragon (Please Forward)

Let me give what I have learned from my extreme journey to help slay your dragon. #youhero

— Bola Odulate

A few months ago, I wrote a proposal for patronizing my recovery from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I had borrowed the idea from the art world. If an art patron can patronize an artist because they believe in the good his art sends out into the world, then a recovery patron can patronize my recovery because they believe in the good I’m going to accomplish by helping other CFS patients. I included details of my plans for using my experience to help others.

I feel strongly about helping other CFS patients because I have been quite shocked at how difficult it is to get properly diagnosed with CFS (took me two years, many take longer). It is even more difficult to recover – in fact many consider this impossible. When I realized that I had figured out how to recover from my unusually severe, paralyzing case of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (a.k.a. Myalgic Encephalomyelitis or ME), I knew I had something useful and unique to offer other patients.  Continue reading

What is Realitynibs’ Niche?

No Junk Please!

I began to panic as I looked at the Google Alerts webpage. I wanted to choose an alert that will help me stay on top of Realitynibs’ niche but I immediately felt overwhelmed by the possibility of being deluged with automatic email messages! What to do?

I needed a balance between quantity and quality. I could set alerts for the many names of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. But as I thought back to the elevator pitch I wrote recently, I realized that my focus within the niche of CFS is demonstrating full recovery. So, I am most interested in the very latest understanding and any news or blogs concerned with that would likely mention the latest name proposed by the Institute of Medicine.  Continue reading

Are You Reading from Mobile or Desktop?

I’ll never forget the day I added mobile compatibility to You can install software packages called plugins into WordPress blogs (Realitynibs is a WordPress blog). I decided that one particular plugin was best for touch smartphones and another plugin for simpler mobiles. I even found an online phone simulator to test my interface for simpler mobiles!

I got into a zone and sat at my desk until it was all done a few hours later. Then I realized I was in trouble. I got up carefully, lay down on the floor and writhed in pain for quite a while…  Continue reading

Cultivating You! Ha, ha.

No Toppling

Fifteen minutes into an afternoon rally in front of the Federal Building, Susan Kreutzer looked ready to drop. She sat down on a low wall for a while, letting her husband and half a dozen other protesters carry on while she recovered what precious little energy she could. –Erin Allday, “Chronic Fatigue Patients Protest Lack of Funding“, San Francisco Chronicle


I started when I realized I was essentially conducting research on myself. I felt compelled to tell the stories of what I was learning about my disease, to help others who might get on the same path behind me. But, just like the patients who attended a rally demanding increased funding for Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, it’s hard on me. I’m proud of getting from zero to the first page of a Google search (“chronic fatigue syndrome recovery blog“) but I had to focus only on the quality of my work to get me there rather than simultaneously cultivating readers.  Continue reading

Blog Neighbors!


I first became a fan of Karen Cripps’ when our respective blogs were listed on Dr. Jacob Teitelbaum’s Helpful Links page. There was a total of three blogs on the page so it was easy to notice my neighbors!

Anyway, you may know that I’ve challenged myself to 30 posts in six weeks with the intent of achieving this in a healthy sustainable way. I’m using a template created by Darren Rowse for these posts and today’s task requires that I analyze a successful blog in my niche. I have chosen Karen’s, which I assessed as successful because she regularly gets many comments. I know about my readers mostly from measuring the number of hits as well as from private messages.  Continue reading

“Be the Voice”

Aaron Parnell

I received a message from Bola on Monday night where she was suddenly feeling a lot of doubt about initiating the Freedom Challenge because it included the possibility of helping her. This post is my response:

Ultimately you have to keep in mind that for the donor, helping you is helping the world become a better place. You were put on the earth for a God given purpose. Your purpose is much bigger than you are alone. Remind people that the reason you were born was to help them support that purpose.

In effect, you become the steward of their bigger purpose to serve. Demonstrate in your request that you are the best servant for this higher purpose.  Continue reading

Take the Freedom Challenge in 5 Baby Steps!

Personal Revolution

1. Think of something you’re ready to let go from your life. As for me, I’m ready to be set free from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Sooo ready! You could choose anything. It doesn’t have to be about health.

2. Choose an image, or words, that depicts your freedom. My picture of the Stars and Stripes above is an obvious one.  Continue reading

What is Your Freedom?

Refraction @Large Catches the Sun

Do you have something you’re ready to let go from your life? If so, I hope you’ll consider taking the Realitynibs Freedom Challenge

While you ponder what image or words might effectively depict your freedom, I’d like you to know that I have challenged myself to 30 blog posts in the next six weeks, starting today (Memorial Day) and ending by July 4. This is terrifying because merely taking a shower uses up most of my energy for the day but I’m committed to getting through the next six weeks in a healthy, sustainable way. I’m going to have to be incredibly disciplined about pacing myself yet accepting imperfection. Yikes!

Here’s an elevator pitch I’ve written to get things started. What do you think?  Continue reading

What is Your Top Tip? #TopTipCFS

CFS is like this broken window pane which obstructs viewing but like the sculpture within, I am still there.

I can just see my former colleagues rolling their eyes if they read what I’m about to tell you: I have decided to give an interactive, live, online presentation about top tips for recovery from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.

Something happened at Sun Microsystems one day that concerned me, and I told everybody that I would be part of the solution. Having identified the problem as insufficient understanding of the enterprise concept, I thought an event that discussed the true reality and meaning of “enterprise” for a corporation that sold software to enterprises might be a good idea. It seemed kind of obvious and silly at first. And I got lots of good-natured teasing. But what I intended as a small, department level idea ended up catching on and turning into a successful, company-wide event.

Well, something has happened in the medical world with respect to the treatment of CFS patients. Continue reading